Have you ever gotten stuck trying to help two people reconcile? Oh my, it can be rough territory. Especially when it involves family. Inevitably, even with your best intentions, you find yourself landing on one side of the argument rather than remaining neutral and trying to help both parties.
Jesus gives us an out. In Luke 12:14 it says, “But He said to him, “Man, who made Me a judge or an arbitrator over you?” His statement helps us see that it is not our responsibility to help settle disagreements between people. If you read the whole chapter you find that Jesus does speak to principles that, if followed by both parties, will result in reconciliation. But he does not dig deep into their issues and the history of their problems.
Every person will face this dilemma at some point, including me, and I need to remember, stick to principles. Keep the conversation to truth and insights that, if applied, will bring about the desired outcome. But also realize that most people who come to you don’t want you to talk about principles. They want you to take their side. Resist that temptation and stay above the fray.