A couple months ago I was sitting in my office between church services looking out my window, where I can see part of our parking lot. What I noticed did not shock me (I have been in church a long time and have seen just about everything), but it did disappoint me. Two men were having a very heated argument that led to one man jumping in his car and skidding out of the parking lot. Argument unresolved.
Every family, regardless of how healthy it is, fights. The difference between healthy and unhealthy is that one sticks with it until relationship is restored, the other bails.
There are many reasons God puts us in a family: nurturing, care, support. But also, so we can grow. For instance, I did not realize the degree of selfishness that existed in me until after I got married. That one was hard to swallow.
Paul says it really well in Philippians 2:
Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate? 2 Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
3 Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. 4 Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. (Philippians 2:1-4)
I am thankful I have a church family that I can do life with. I’m better for it and I know others are too. So let’s quickly forgive one another and if we can, do it before you skid out of the parking lot:)